I know a guy who is married to a woman who regularly pokes fun at him and shares TMI-type info about him. Publicly, too: both in person and in Facebook posts. Tell me why the whole world needs to know that you think your Valentine's Day gift from him wasn't good enough, for example?
Her Facebook posts in particular often make me feel sorry for him and embarrassed for her: there's something to be said for keeping private things private. When I started this blog, there weren't many rules I set for myself, but one was that I was never deliberately going to use it as a public platform from which to bash my husband. Especially since he doesn't read it, so he'd have no idea when self-defense was necessary.
It's been really hard sometimes. When we have an argument or difference of opinion, I'm sorely tempted to vent here. When he does something silly or embarrassing, it would be only too easy to share the story and get cheap laughs at his expense. I try to remember that he trusts me to have his back, not stab it: he loves me, and we're supposed to be a team here.
Long story short: on the very rare occasions where I don't have anything nice to say about him, I'll be quiet. It won't be aired here for everyone to read, by my conscious choice.
Monday, November 18: Tell us about a blog post that you didn't publish.
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ReplyDeleteI've noticed that, Elizabeth...I assumed that it was a conscious choice on your part as well. After all, it is so easy to write about our husbands that we must actively try not to do so if that's the path we've elected!
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